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The Lover and the King: The eternal struggle (or unfolding love story) of The Head & the Heart

“The ego seeks to divide and separate. Spirit seeks to unify and heal.”

— Pema Chödrön

Our struggles with ego begin early in life. Essentially, the first time we choose one thing over another, the persona takes root and begins its long road of blossoming into what will eventually be known as the ego. Interestingly though, before we’re even sure of who we are, we’re warned against the pitfalls of arrogance and narcissism. We think that in order to fit in, we must avoid these maladaptations like the plague. And to a certain extent, this is true. However, I submit that this is the point where deep in our subconscious we welcome the belief that the ego is evil. And this is a grave mistake.

My hope is that this writing sheds light on some recent personal revelations that convincingly point to the idea that the ego is merely a tool of consciousness and not the treacherous tyrant we’re taught it is. Let me explain: I see the ego tool very clearly being used by the ever-evolving spiritual entity to simulate a playground of polarity — an illusion — through which we can experience dramatic pressure and in turn, evolve spiritually.

Thanks to our deeper understandings of Quantum Mechanics we’ve been able to see that the Multiverse is a place where separation is actually impossible, as all energy is fused together in one infinite tapestry of electrical impulse. Much like the fact that without environmental pressure upon evolving species, there would be no evolution; so too is the case with spiritual evolution. Heightened emotional drama and strife give one the opportunity to choose unity over division and thus mature along their karmic path.

When we allow this spiritual worldview to include the idea of the ego, we see very clearly that the ego has a divine purpose as the great prism through which we can perceive the catalytic division of the world around us. Sprinkle in some self-awareness and we have the perfect vessel of spiritual expression available. Furthermore, the functions of the ego as it relates to the mental plane are simple: the ego promotes division in the mind of humanity to support its divisional tactics.

Do you find yourself over-worrying? Say hello to the work of a finely-tuned ego. When you break down everyday worry, we find at its core nothing but division and polarity. Will she leave me? Are they going to hurt me? Will we go broke and be cast out by society? Will they reject me? All are fears generated by projected division scenarios of the ego complex. It’s a finely-tuned tool which is just doing its job.

Now, where does the heart come in? Simple. I’m venturing to suggest that if the ego’s purpose is to generate division, then the heart’s purpose is to promote unity. Illustrated here, we see the great battle of the head and the heart. The ego wants you to worry in order to overcome the struggle and grow, and the heart is waiting to accept you when you see through the illusion of the ego and choose love over division. Bam.

This writing is intended to shed the light of new perspective on our anxiety-ridden approach to life. A simple superconscious overview to worry can be applied which leaves the ego naked and exposed in its true form, a necessary tool of an expanding consciousness. For this reason, I trust it can now be easier to accept the ego for its acute and seductive injection of division in your life, as the nature of the heart provides us the unique opportunity to up-level our worrisome experience into elegant opportunities of growth.

Choose to love your ego for the tool of growth that it is. Anything less than love causes a division of self and a fragmenting of your will. Your gift in this process is the simple fact that everything within you and without you is diligently working in your favor to help you ascend. Rise gracefully. Be well.


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